this black and white image shows a chimpanzee deep in thought

No one gives a monkey

this black and white image shows a chimpanzee deep in thought

No one gives a monkey

The first title I gave this blog post was Muse as I was feeling thoughtful then as I wrote and ranted it changed to PLEDGE and then as I shared it on social media it changed again! (See footnote)

I fear I am missing my Devon Life column having become accustomed to my cathartic monthly opportunity to share with no-one, in particular, my thoughts on the situation of social care in the UK today.

Today is no different to when I started CaronCares back in 2012. In fact, I will auto-correct, it is worse because the situation is far worse. Care is rationed to all but those who can afford to pay. A two-tiered health system is threatened but a two-tiered social care system is already operational.

On the radio one morning I heard a wife lament about her lack of support and sheer exhaustion whilst caring for her husband who has a rare brain disease. Really abandoned in her time of need, her own health compromised as a result, and I feel sad and angry. Sad that we hold so little respect for our elderly and infirm, if he had been a dog or even better a puppy, people would be lining up with love and treats nothing too much trouble. But no, our elderly and infirm are no longer useful to society and hidden in the shadows of shame.

I once visited the Topography of Terror in Berlin where I wiled away hours reading of the atrocities piled on people Hitler wanted ‘dealt with’ the Jews, disabled people and senior officials who threatened his autonomy. I was sickened by what I read but in reality, is Britain at the end of 2021 any better?

Care is rationed like cards dealt from a pack, if you are lucky you will receive some, if not you get the joker, but a lack of social care is no joking matter. Dignity, humanity, kindness and caring – when did it all go so wrong? Covid compiled the already dire situation along with Brexit telling the myriads of eastern European care workers to effectively bugger off back to where you belong. Taking the jobs of the British people – my armpit – the care sector and NHS are woefully seeking people to plug the staffing gap.

Only today Rishi Sunak has announced a £6b injection into healthcare services, running the bathwater without the tap really, without the staffing its a waste of time and money. No mention of social care, Boris only brings that one to the table when he needs a vote winner or morale booster in dark times.

It’s a joke now, beyond a joke. More and more I begin to realise that no one really cares, really cares about others. No one gives without looking to receive and I feel bereaved at what we have become as a nation. Only yesterday I spent 90 minutes on my hands and knees in the customer’s garage ( I have a day job as a manager for Middletons Mobility ) trying to replace the batteries in his scooter only to find this didn’t work. I used my own fuel on a week where it has cost me £100 plus to travel to work due to the wonderful fuel prices – so I was understandably frustrated.  SO….

I pledge to be here. I pledge to at the very least to help signpost you towards help and support. I pledge to find you the items and little problem-solvers that might help everyday life for yourself or someone you care for. I pledge to be here to at least reply to your email or text if you have no one to talk to and it all seems too much. I pledge to care when even I feel battered by life and fight every day to survive.


Footnote: This was what I added to the link when I shared this on Linkedin and felt I had to use it as my title.

“Really beginning to realise the value of my blog CaronCares. Next year sees its 10th Birthday and it holds a multitude of useful ideas to help people care for elderly loved ones. It needs to! Social care is rationed and only those in the sector or those in need give a monkey” – and realised what I had done as I had already chosen the photo of the chimp deep in thought!


Award-winning blogger and care columnist for Devon Life magazine, Caron also campaigns for recognition of the needs elderly people and their carers. Designer and creator of the award-winning Dementia Assistance Cards which are free to all, and helping thousands of people globally Caron is passionate and committed to making a difference

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