We would like to think that when we are elderly life would be easier.They already have the burden of perhaps being less mobile and lacking the energy of youth.
I am finding more and more that the elderly are experiencing more and more stress. When someone tells you they wish they would go to sleep and not wake up it really saddens me.
Realistically though the older we become the less able we are to cope with issues and problems that in earlier years would probably have seemed minor. Now in old age they become so huge that often people can’t sleep and loose their appetite.
To some family members the elderly relative or friend may become more and more demanding which can become annoying, especially if you have heavy work and family commitments of your own.
I know, I have been there with my Mother in Law. I was working and had young sons and a dependent relative across the town. More and more was required of me and although I did get to the point where I was close to breaking and did need to ask for help, I was never rude or cruel to her.
One of my clients today was in a terrible state and had phoned a close family relative to have the phone put done on them. !
I know that as carers and relatives the stress is huge but that kind of behaviour leaves the elderly person feeling even more stressed, upset and isolated than before.
If you are really struggling to cope, as I was once , ask for help!
It is tough at the time both for yourself and the person you care for but in the long run they get someone new to talk to and you get a little respite. Your local Social Services will be able to help but you do have to ask for it, no-one will offer. Please remember, you are not failing your loved one, you are ensuring they are cared for to the best of everyone’s ability.