How to help someone elderly who has lost confidence.
Whilst I only know so much, I hope to be seen as the “go-to” person with regards to helping someone elderly make the most of their last years.
Unlike large corporate charities I want to be available for people to reach out to me on a one to one basis.
Today showed me why.
Em has very kindly allowed me to share this with you as she and her Nana are not alone in dealing with the issue of lacking confidence.
When you are a child and your parents moved home this meant you starting a new school . I knew this all too well, my parents moved in the very last year of Primary education and ended up at a new school for one year where most of the children had been for years and had established friendships. Luckily I was fairly confident and a good gymnast and soon settled in!
Imagine being 91 and moving somewhere new. Imagine if this is following the loss of long partner,which for many it is. Put yourself in their shoes.
Em contacted me recently saying;
“Hi Caron, I am concerned that my Nana may be afraid to leave her home.
She has moved to sheltered housing that has a communal area with
activities but she does not feel confident to visit. Should I
encourage her or is it best to leave this matter? I don’t want her to
feel pressure but I don’t want her to feel isolated either.”
I replied back saying;
Thanks so much for contacting me about your Nana.
There may be many issues surrounding your Nana and her unwillingness to socialise.
She may just be shy and lack confidence in her new environment. They can seem a little clicky to start but once people get to know her they will be friendly and supportive.
If you are unable to visit her when there is an activity on, mention your concerns to the house manager or warden. He/she may be able to help.
Do you know why your Nana has lost confidence? Is it a mobility issue or perhaps she has hearing/sight loss, continence issues that she doesn’t talk about.
It is, as you said important for her not to become isolated and lonely, she may just need some encouragement to get involved. You could always have a quiet word with another resident/neighbour. Keep an eye out for low mood, lack of appetite as your Nana may be depressed and there is help available for her.
I hope this helps. Thanks for being such a caring Grandaughter. Please help me spread the word about Caron Cares. It and I try to help whenever we can!
With very best wishes, Caron.
All great advice that makes sense, thank you Caron.