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Another of my musings!


Have you noticed how instant we are becoming? Children fed on demand, feed me, feed me now. Years ago, the rule was four hourly feeds and baby you left baby to cry if it was hungry in between!

Now we want it all NOW! Amazon Prime, you don’t even leave the house and your delivery is with you the following day. Instant reorder buttons too, so you don’t even have to venture as far as your computer or phone!

Chip and pin, faster than writing a cheque, is now too slow, so we have contactless. How long did it take to key in four digits and press return?

Faster and, Faster, and Faster we go.

Food is designed to be easier and faster to cook with whole swathes of food technicians, and scientists involved in creating joints of meat that roast in ten minutes or citrus fruits that have the flavour of an orange, but no longer take a few minutes to peel. Easy peelers are the result and take seconds.

Ready meals “Ping” meals are healthier too, it’s now too slow to cook fresh when you can buy ready done, and “ping” without the heart disease fear.

Fast food, just got faster. Now McDonald’s have an express aisle for those of us who just can’t bear to wait and Wetherspoons, don’t even turn up at the bar, order from your table using your phone. Why the hurry, what’s the rush?


Stop, think and for goodness sake ask yourself, “What is the rush?” Why are we rushing towards, old age?


Old age, there is NO rush? It takes an hour to wash and dress, an age to walk to the bus stop and then the bus is often late and you have to wait.

Get to the shops and because everything is instant and electronic you wait and queue for the one checkout with a person serving. You also do this because they will be the only person you speak to today the only smile you will see.

Why rush to lonely and struggling? Isolated by death, divorce and dislocated families.

Life in a care home, you have no rush although the carers may work hard to not share the fact they are rushed off their feet. Too many of us to care for, with so many needs and not enough time or carers.

What’s the rush?

Slow down. It takes an hour on average to help someone with dementia to eat a meal, they are in no hurry. “Just popping to the loo” becomes a half hour job, and that is just finding another carer free to help, and a hoist that is in working order. No “popping” happening now!

And ultimately, what’s the rush. You have one life, don’t hurry so much, you are not living life, you are letting it happen to you. Slow down, maybe stop, and look around. Take time to find beauty in simplicity, trees, clouds, people.

That’s part of where we are going wrong in society, it’s all about us and all about now! We have lost sight of what’s important, people, relationships, it’s about what we can bring to life not take from it.

Ultimately life is taken from us, slow down enjoy and give while you still can.


Award-winning blogger and care columnist for Devon Life magazine, Caron also campaigns for recognition of the needs elderly people and their carers. Designer and creator of the award-winning Dementia Assistance Cards which are free to all, and helping thousands of people globally Caron is passionate and committed to making a difference

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